Friday, November 27, 2009

move on with our life?

...I never felt this lonely before, not this lonely. The feeling of loneliness and the feeling of missing something that I feel like I haven't do it good enough and to just simply let it go and get a move on with my life. People said "lets move on with our life ok"? I felt like I got a slap big time on my face, its sound like "you are so useless", "I want to start over with someone else"....I seriously felt like that.

Maybe really, seriously and probably she deserve something thats better for her huh, Im only just another ordinary person. Perhaps people described me as that if "you are what you eat" I should be like a sandwiches. Why? maybe I'm "easy" or perhaps "simple" just like a sandwiches huh.

Why people always wanna do something so complicated anyway, life its so simple and i never expected THAT much in life.

....I really miss you thats all

Thursday, November 12, 2009

summer snow

Its summer snow in the deep blue sea.
I try to touch but it fades away.
It must be a dream I will never get,
just like my love that's crying for you.
If there were something not to change forever,
we could feel it deep in our heart.
Today is over with a million tears, still everyone has a wish to live.
Oh, I do believe everlasting love and destiny to meet you again.
I feel a pain I can hardly stand. All I can do is loving you

Friday, November 6, 2009

men are like rubber bands, woman are like waves

Dedicate to all the men and woman out there, who are trying so hard to make their relationship work. Thanks for "men are from mars, woman are from venus" book. This is only some of the part in the book and somehow it got me very interested and i wanna share it with you all.

Men are like rubber bands. When they pull away, they can stretch only so far before they come springing back. A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle. This cycle involves getting close, pulling a way, and then getting close again.

Most woman are surprised to realize that even when a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer. Men instinctively feel this urge to pull away. It is not decision or choice. It just happens. It is neither his fault nor her fault. It is a natural cycle.

Woman misinterpret a man's pulling away because generally a woman pulls away for a different reasons. She pulls back when she doesn't trust him to understand her feelings, when she has been hurt and is afraid of being hurt again, or when he has done something wrong and disappointed her.

Certainly a man pull away for the same reasons, but he will pull away even if she has done nothing wrong. He may love and trust her, and then suddenly he begins to pull away. Like a stretched rubber band, he will distance himself and then come back all on his own.

A man pulls away to fulfill his need for independence or autonomy. When he has fully stretched away, then instantly he will come springing back. When he has fully separated, then suddenly he will feel his need for love and intimacy again. Automatically he will be more motivated to give his love and receive the love he needs. When a man spring back, he picks up the relationship at whatever degree of intimacy it was when he stretched away. He doesn't feel any need for a period of getting reacquainted again......

A woman is like wave. When she feels loved her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling really good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down. This crash is temporary. After she reaches bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will again feel good about herself. Automatically her wave begins to rise back up.

When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love. This time of bottoming out is a time for emotional housecleaning.

If she has suppressed any negative feeling or denied herself in order to be more loving on the upswing of her wave, then on the downswing she begins to experience these negative feelings and unfulfilled needs. During this down time she especially needs to talk about problems and be heard and understood.

This experience of "going down" is like going down into a dark well. When a woman goes into her "well" she is consciously sinking into her unconscious self, into darkness and diffused feeling. She may suddenly experience a host of unexplained emotions and vague feelings. She may feel hopeless, thinking she is all alone or unsupported. But soon after she reaches the bottom, if she fees loved and supported, she will automatically start to feel better. As suddenly as she may have crashed, she will automatically rise up and again radiate love in her relationship.

A woman's ability to give and receive love in her relationships is generally a reflection of how she is feeling about herself. When she is not feeling as good about herself, she is unable to be as accepting and appreciative of her partner. At her down times, she tends to be overwhelmed or more emotionally reactive. When her wave hits bottom she is more vulnerable and needs more love. It is crucial that her partner understand what she needs a these times, otherwise he may make unreasonable demands.

Alright that it, no more typing hahaha. There is a lot more stuff about this very uselful book though but i guess you guys have to go and dig some at a second hand book store though cuz the book was published in 2002.

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.....